Join me in disintegrating ALL limiting beliefs in your life. These limiting beliefs can literally steal our dreams if we allow it
I been thinking a lot lately about limiting beliefs and how they can literally steal our dreams, if we allow it! I am on an all out mission to disintegrate ALL limiting beliefs in my life! Won’t you join me?
We all have them. They trick us into thinking we’re not enough or can’t do something. They hold us back from reaching our dreams, improving ourselves & achieving success, as we define it.
Limiting beliefs quite literally pull us back or harness our growth.
When I think about being held back or pulled back from something in my life, I picture walking my sweet dog, Layla. She’s a white Chinese Crested Powder Puff, and weighs 7 pounds. 🙂
When we go on our daily walk, she often gets distracted & veers off course. Depending on how much time I have, I may or may not allow her to sniff every leaf, twig or blade of grass she’d like.
And when It’s time to move on from a particular diversion, I pull back on her leash which pulls back her harness.
Although she’s small, she is mighty! There are walks where she gets back in line and proceeds on our regular route, when I pull back. But most of the time she gives me a pretty solid tug in her direction, when she wants to further indulge in a sniffing session.
It’s her way of saying, “Hey, I matter, too! Isn’t this walk for me?”
Our self limiting beliefs literally pull & tug us away from whatever it is we want to sniff (umm…accomplish).
They tell us that we aren’t enough and don’t have what it takes to get the job done. These limiting beliefs come from our reptilian brain. The overarching goal of our reptilian brain is to keep us safe.
Our brains often interpret new things as a threat to our safety and therefore discourage them.
In caveman days, our reptilian brains kept our ancestors out of a lot of trouble. They’d alert them to true life or death dangers, like a hungry sabretooth tiger.
Although most of us don’t often encounter threats to our physical livelihood, our reptilian brain remains active and concerned about anything unusual or out of order.
Truly, we may be nervous or not completely confident about going for “IT,’ but I am guessing most of our “ITs” don’t pose a physical danger.
My point remains that our reptilian brain can really screw things up for us if we don’t catch it.
Examples of limiting beleifs
So what’s an example of a limiting belief?
Of course he got the promotion, because he went to the right school. I can’t get a promotion, because I didn’t go to the right school.
She brought delicious homemade treats to the class party, because she’s a stay-at-home mom. I can’t make homemade anything, because I don’t have time…because of my work, family and everything in between.
Yes, they lost 20 pounds, because they had a personal trainer workout with them 3 times a week. I don’t have the time or budget to workout with a trainer, so I can’t lose 20 pounds.
I’ll never be good at golf, because I’m not coordinated. People that are good at golf have it in their DNA.
He wrote a book, because he has had an interesting life full of experiences and adventure. I haven’t had the benefit of traveling the world, so I can’t write a book. I’m just not that interesting.
My genetics won’t allow me to look, feel, act, be the way I want. All of the cards are stacked against me.
I could go on, but I think you get the point.
Here’s something to consider. Are our limiting beliefs even true? Think about it. Are they?
Anytime you have a self limiting belief, you owe it to yourself to investigate.
Do you really need to have a personal trainer workout with you 3 times a week to lose 20 pounds? Really?
I am positive you know of people, whether personal friends, or even those on social media, who have lost all kinds of weight by making simple lifestyle changes and committing themselves to the process.
Is it true that you can’t make homemade food because you work? Come on. We all have things we prioritize, and if you really really wanted to make something homemade, you could find the time. Guaranteed. Think about all of the time spent scrolling through social media.
Further, do we really know what other people’s lives look like? We may see what they want us to see on Facebook or Instagram, and we may hear what they want us to hear. But do we truly know? Then why in the heck do we continue to compare ourselves to others?
Stop comparing yourself to others
I’ve heard it said, “We can’t compare our beginning to someone else’s middle.” Whatever your beginning or their middle happens to be, everyone has a unique story that you likely know much less about than you think you do.
Just stop it already. Stop comparing yourself to others!
And stop believing there is something – anything – in your way to reaching your goal.
I am sure you’ve heard…
“Whether you think you can or you think you cannot, you are right.” – Henry Ford
It’s absolutely, positively, 100% true.
If you think you can AND you want it badly enough, you will figure it out and make it happen.
If you don’t believe in yourself, you’ve already lost – even before the race started. You might as well pack your bags and go home.
Here’s the way I see it. You have a choice. You can be happy or sad. You can believe in yourself or you can constantly convince yourself that you’re not good enough.
You honestly have the choice.
What’s it gonna be?
I’ll tell you what. Given the decision, I’ll take HAPPY all day long. And I’ll take betting on myself over betting against myself.
Why in the world wouldn’t you?
Here’s what I want you to do.
The next time you hear yourself think (yes, I hear myself think all the time, thank you) that you wish you could but you can’t or that clearly you don’t have what it takes…STOP and INVESTIGATE.
Ask yourself the following:
1- Is what I am telling myself really true?
2- If it’s partly true (ex. Need further education, experience, savings, etc.), do I want it badly enough to sacrifice the time, money, energy needed?
1- Reframe your thoughts. Example, I do need a graduate degree to become a nuclear engineer, and I don’t have one today, but I really want it, and I will do/sacrifice whatever it takes to reach this goal.
2- Make a plan to get. It. done.
What are your limiting beliefs? Make a list today, and start reframing them. Get ahead of your reptilian brain.
Although making sacrifices & changes to achieve your dreams can be uncomfortable, you’d be hard pressed to convince me (or yourself) that these sacrifices & changes are life threatening.
In fact, you can take a page out of my parenting playbook. We tell our kids, “Get comfortable being uncomfortable.”
And that’s my final message to you.
You CAN do anything you want badly enough. There are few limiting beliefs that are true and cannot be overcome.
I’ll believe in you until you’re ready to do it for yourself. But until then, you must promise to investigate & reframe all of your limiting beliefs. Deal?
Have a lovely week!
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